Balance

Balance encompasses the full range of emotions.

You may think the balanced person takes everything in stride, never gets upset or irritable, rarely gets depressed or overwhelmed. But that's simply not true. Balance is not about remaining placid and peaceful. In fact, by avoiding negative emotions such as anger, grief, or sadness, you are causing an unhealthy imbalance.

Your emotions are truth coming to the surface. Have a good cry. Laugh from your belly. If you are angry, allow yourself to feel it. When we allow ourselves to witness our emotions, we are better able to view them from a healthy perspective. We stop obessessing over things we have little control over.

Balance is not a fixed point, but always moving forward, we need to move forward, too. This can mean embracing change and allowing ourselves to evolve. Trust yourself that you will make appropriate adjustments to a changing environment. 

Get out into the world. Share your gifts. Move forward knowing you are well and capable of adjusting to a balance at any given moment.

My family has a credo- our statement of principles and beliefs. Living by these principles helps us focus, prioritize and adjust our attitude when confronted with change.

Help Each Other

It's very important for each family member, whether it be your biological or adopted family, be watched over. For loved ones to feel the security of someone 'having their back', it can make the difference between living life with a sense of wellness verses thoughts of alienation and depression. Check in regularly with one another. Give a call, "Hey, grandma, how you feeling? Can I drop by with some soup for you?" Helping one another requires us to pay attention. When we do this, we are well rewarded in our hearts. This moment with our loved ones is all we have. 

Love Each Other

Turns out, loving each other, and expressing it, is really healthy for us. 

Highly affectionate people have a stronger ability to handle stress than less affectionate people. Being affectionate produces cortisol, which happens to be a friend to low blood pressure.

The key may be the hormone oxytocin, often known as “the bonding hormone” because it is released during activities such as sex, childbirth and breastfeeding. It is also released during nonsexual affectionate touch. Oxytocin’s effects on the body are primarily ones of calming, of warmth. It’s very much a feel-good hormone.

Affectionate people don’t get as stressed out as others.

Come on, give me a hug! We'll all feel better. 

Take Care of Each Other

Helping others can be as simple as taking a loved one on a 15-minute walk. Picking up a few things for them at the grocery store. Helping fill out some insurance papers. When you break down the jobs into very simple tasks, it is easier to help others, and to request help for yourself. Everyone who loves you wants to help. It's up to you to figure the ways that best serve yourself and others.

Don't wait until your loved one is overwhelmed and exhausted or their health fails. Reaching out for help, and helping others, is a sign of personal strength.

Tips on How to Ask Others if You can Help Them Out

  • Consider the person's special abilities and interests. If you know a friend enjoys cooking but dislikes driving, suggest you pick up some things for them while you are at the store.
  • Pick the best time to ask someone if they need help. Timing is important. A person who is tired and stressed might be too overwhelmed to know where to begin.
  • Think about what they need to be done and what is an easy task for you. 
  • Be prepared for hesitance or refusal. To the person who seems hesitant, simply say, "Why don't you think about it." Try not to take it personally when a request to help is turned down.
  • Avoid weakening your request. Use "I" statements to make specific requests: "Do you want to go to your yoga class on Sunday? I would like to stay with Grandma so you can make your class."
  • Find ways to clearly communicate what you believe your loved one may need. This is an important preventative measure to avoid unnecessary stress for them to come up with a delegation chart.

Sometimes it's as simple as letting know loved ones how important they are to you and others.

Hold No Grudges

Letting go of anger and resentment towards others is actually a gift we give ourselves. Often times, loved ones don't even know they have offended you. If your feelings have been hurt by anothers' actions or words, it's important to clearly state how you are feeling as soon as possible. Don't let things fester and ultimately affect your health.  

Even if you are the 'non-confrontational' type, you are human and deserve to have your feelings heard and dealt with. If kept to yourself, there is no possible solution to a misunderstanding. It soon becomes a grudge. And that is not good for anyone. Especially you. 

Check this out for tips on letting go of anger and resentment.